Sometimes trying to get information from your kids about how their school day was is like pulling teeth. If I ask “How was your day?” I am almost guaranteed to get the response: “Fine”. I learned early on to bypass that question, and jump straight to something from the list below. Often one of these more specific questions will get them thinking through their day and information will pop out whether they meant it to or not.
For my kids, the crazier the question the more likely I was to get an answer. They seemed to respond best to the “Did anyone cry today” or “Who got hurt today” questions. And recess seemed to loom large for both of them, so asking questions about that would often get them talking so I could learn a little more about who they were spending time with, what the dynamics were with the other kids, and what they were passionate about.
If you can keep these questions in your head and pull them out randomly at dinner, that’s great. You might also think about taping them to the inside of a cabinet they don’t often open and referring to the list right before you sit down to dinner to pick one or two to throw out during the meal.
If you try this, or if you have other good questions suggestions, let me know in the comments below!